MFMC Volume 3: Head games

Hey Everyone,

Thanks for tuning in to the third volume of the Merge Fitness Mom Chronicles. How are you enjoying them so far? I’d love feedback from you - helps me know if I am posting relevant content. I hope your week is going well so far!


I’ve come to realize while running some errands that I’ve been operating lately in my mind as if in competition against some ticking time bomb. I need to get this done so that I can squeeze that in, or I can’t go there because of this thing, or since I have to run, run, run I’ll do that thing later… hurry, hurry, hurry… rush, rush, rush…and on and on it goes! It’s exhausting. I bet some of you can relate.

I understand that to a certain extent, this is part of the stage of life we are in right now. However, I need to recognize that the only one holding said theoretical time bomb is me. The degree to which I feel rushed, hurried, anxious, etc. is in large part on me. However, the great news is that it is also within my capacity to change that response! And now, more than ever, I am aware that someone else is watching my every move, action, reaction and response so I had better start figuring out how to exemplify the positive ones.

There is a series we are going through at church right now where one of the principles surrounding the teaching is: can you read yourself into the story and honestly consider your response? So I ask you - read yourself into my story - can you identify a head game you’ve been playing that isn’t having such a positive effect - do you compare yourself with others who are in “better” shape than you and so use that to justify putting your body down? Have you gone off track with healthy eating habits already once this week and so now are tempted to just abandon your efforts entirely? While my focus is directed towards health and fitness, there are numerous areas where head games can exist. What’s the negative game you play?

The great news is that it is within your capacity to change that response! This requires a diligent practice of fortitude. defines fortitude as, “Mental and emotional strength in facing difficulty, adversity, danger, or temptation courageously.” Wow. Go back and reread that definition again.

So where does this strength come from? Practice. Repetition. Practice. Repetition. Wash, Rinse, Repeat. When we begin to recognize those negative head games starting in our minds we can then refuse to play and instead practice thoughts and internal dialogue that actually builds our self confidence, bolsters our personal motivation, or in my case, reminds me to throw the darn time bomb out the window and just enjoy life! If you’ve been wondering thus far in this post about the “why” that’s it, right there folks. If you recall in volume 1 I invited you join me on a journey and along the way discover how to love who you are in the process, well this is one giant step to getting there. Be nice to yourself, give yourself some grace and credit! And be honest about where your thought life needs some change to promote positivity instead of negativity.

Let’s play a new version of head games from now on, a version that consistently practices fortitude. It will take dedicated time and repeated effort as forging a new path always does. I’ll plan on circling back around to this topic in a few weeks and see how you’re doing and I’ll update you about how I’m doing as well.